The Ripple Effect……
Chasing Oprah has been a bit like that. What started out as a mission to get on Oprah’s couch has now morphed into something much bigger than that. Now with only what seems like minutes before I get MY chance at auditioning for Oprah’s new network (I fluctuate between the rock scenarios on how I feel about it) the journey I started planning is starting to have its own life above and beyond the outcome of this particular mission and beautifully it is no longer about me (thank god I hear you all cry haha) but about many people. Chasing Oprah really is becoming Finding My Mojo. Over the last few days I have received numerous emails and phone calls, mostly from strangers hearing about my Finding My Mojo tour and it seems to have really struck a chord with people.
The stories range frrm people wanting to recommend someone really interesting or famous to interview on the subject of Finding one’s Mojo (and helping make that happen), to people asking how they can help, people asking if I would interview them and others who are looking for their own Mojo and are getting excited to go looking for theirs as I am mine.
And here’s the interesting thing, we all think we are doing it tough or are on our own in our darkest moments but I am here to tell you we are not. Like I say over and over – everyone has their sh*t. Fame, power, beauty, money…none of it can buy a perfect existence so when it’s your time it just is. It is how we deal with it and what we take from it and the beautiful acceptance of that journey that makes a hard time become a precious memory or lesson later…
And when you are famous and you are going through hard times it is easy to feel shamed if you read any of what is written about you (Not saying it’s the truth) but then I’ve had a good think about that and what’s the point of being famous if you can’t hope to and try to inspire others to get through their hard times? And who is to say just what way you go about doing that?
Today I received amongst many, two particular emails from two different people: one from someone I had not heard from since high school and another, a woman living in LA with a child who has autism. Both are doing the best they can with crappy circumstances. Both took time out of their busy lives to say nice things to me (thank you), saying I inspire them to keep going when the going gets tough. Many others who made contact shared their experiences saying they too had lost their Mojo. Funny thing was, there they were saying I was inspiring them when only this morning I sat and cried for about 30 minutes straight……
Trying to start a new life and build a dream is hard, trying to get your kid through the last two days of school whilst trying to do this and a million other things is hard and I have little secrets of my life I don’t share with the world that makes thigns harder. There I was just having a moment and saying Universe I just need some good news today. I went for a walk, picked some flowers, grabbed the four dogs from my different neighbors and walked and enjoyed the sunshine and sorta fresh air (it is LA). I came home had a shower, did my list (hair, make up blah blah), put on a dress, took Kai some home cooked treats for his school graduation party and sat back down at my computer to get two beautiful heart felt lovely supportive letters saying keep going casue while you keep goign we will try too. The funniest thing was both people were “You seem to cope so well!” and I nearly choked. Blubbering my eyes out an hour before is not what I call coping well, but it is real and guess what? Most of us human beings do it.
The key is to break away from that moment and do something else that takes your mind away from whatever it dragging you down. And this website really embodies that…I was unhappy in my life and so I just started doing what makes my heart sing and on some days it does - now the plan is to have my heart singing most days. Read the papers over the last year…many opinions on what goes on inside this blog, but guess what? I don’t care what those people think. I care that people like Lesley, Cherie and Sue all had a better day simply because I too have been through a bad year and am not afraid to admit it. More importantly I truly deeply want others to come with me on this journey, to pick themselves up, shake the dust off and take a big, brave . bold step toward your new and improved Mojo rising self. If you have lost your Mojo then join in, get involved, find what makes YOUR heart sing, do it and come back here and tell us all about it.
I did my first workout today and even though it was gentle it was amazing. AND I had three walks and none of them feeling like I was carrying a bag of bricks on my back. I may well be healed. Yay. JJ Flizanes is beautiful, generous, passionate, caring, articulate and one of those people who understand the ripple effect…..she lives it and I do hope that by me being the beneficiary of her time and energy that a lot of people out there feel and experience the same.
Having said that, since getting www.FindingMyMojo.com and pointing it here and sending out the message of many hands making light work to help inspire all those in need of it, I am blessed and grateful and amazed at the people I have had agree to interviews…. OMG just wait to see who we will be interviewing over the next 3 weeks as Kai and I hit the road. I think you will be entertained, inspired, motivated, delighted, enlightened and hopefully shed a few tears (let em go) , have a few laughs (soul food) and learn that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I must sleep now as I have not slept well in 3 days but I would like you all to continue to spread the word and if you know someone inspirational then feel free to ask them to be part of something bigger than me, bigger than Oprah and bigger than all of us and yet shared by us all – the humility of being human.
Nite nite see you on the road soon…..
X Ajay Mo-jorifica!

Get some sleep Ajay, your body deserves the rest. And make sure you start tweeting your blog posts so the people who need to be inspired by you can find where you write all of this wonderful, honest stuff.
See you soon. xo